Navigating Holiday Tantrums – Dealing with Big Emotions in Public
The holidays are a time for family, fun, and festive celebrations—but they can also be a time of stress and overwhelm for kids (and parents too).
You’ve probably experienced it: Your child is enjoying the festivities one moment, and the next, they’re having a full-blown tantrum in the middle of a crowded family gathering. It’s a frustrating and sometimes embarrassing situation.
But don’t worry, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not without solutions. Handling tantrums and big emotions in public settings can be challenging, but with a bit of preparation and the right tools, you can reduce stress for both you and your child.
Here are 3 strategies for managing big emotions in public during the holidays:
1. Pre-plan Escape Routes or Quiet Spaces
One of the best ways to handle a meltdown is by having a calm, pre-planned escape route. Before you even get to the event, take some time to identify a quiet space or an area where you can retreat if your child starts to feel overwhelmed. Whether it’s a quiet room in the house or a nearby park bench, knowing where you can go ahead of time takes the pressure off and provides a safe haven for your child to calm down. If you’re at a family gathering, kindly let the host know you may need a little space, so they understand and can be supportive.
2. Use a Simple Hand Signal or Code Word
When a child is overwhelmed, they may struggle to verbally communicate their needs. Having a non-verbal cue can help them feel empowered and prevent a tantrum from escalating. A simple hand signal or code word (like “orange” or “pause”) can be taught before the event and can act as a signal for when they need a break. Practicing this beforehand allows your child to feel more in control of the situation. This technique also gives you a quiet way to step in and offer support before things get out of hand.
3. Practice a “Holiday Social Story”
Social stories are an incredibly effective way to prepare kids for what to expect in new or overwhelming environments. A holiday social story could include the schedule of events, what to expect in terms of interactions with family members, and what to do if they feel overwhelmed. Walk through the social story with your child before the gathering, and reinforce it with them during the event as needed. This helps your child feel prepared and empowered, making it less likely they will be caught off guard by changes or unexpected situations.
Keep Your Cool, Mom and Dad
It’s completely normal for children to experience big emotions, especially during the holiday season when things can feel chaotic and overstimulating. As a parent, it’s important to keep in mind that these tantrums are often a response to stress, not a reflection of your parenting abilities.
By preparing ahead of time with escape routes, signals, and social stories, you can help your child feel more secure and in control during the holiday hustle and bustle. And don’t forget—no matter what happens, you’ve got this! Tantrums are a part of childhood, and with a calm approach and thoughtful strategies, you’ll navigate through them with confidence.
Final Thoughts:
Holiday gatherings don’t have to mean holiday meltdowns. By having a plan in place and giving your child the tools they need to navigate big emotions, you can enjoy more peaceful, joyful moments during the season.
